Sunday, March 19, 2006

So long status quo - I think we just let go.....

Well, my older daughter has official been kicked out of youth group. Yep. Why you might ask? What did she do? Nothing other than being a college freshman this year. The new youth pastor said after Easter she is no longer going to be part of the youth group. Despite the fact that we have no college ministry at our church. And not only that, but she is no longer welcome in the high school Sunday School class either, again despite the fact that we do not have a college age class. She was in tears today. At one point they had said she could be an assistant leader, but now apparently they have reneged saying you have to be 2 years out of high school before you can do that. That made her mad. And considering the youth group is really little, and she is one of only two girls and she is willing to stay and participate you would think they would encourage her to stay for now.
What it's doing is making her leave, and also the other girl, her best friend, K, because she does not want to be the only girl. Well, actually, that isn't the only issue, but I won't go into that today. When she told Kim he said, well, that makes our decision all the more easy doesn't it. The decision being to leave our church and go elsewhere. So many things have transpired in the last few months. Things that have been taken away, or real problematic. Kim had a point - if it were not for these things we would probably not been brave enough to go even if we knew we should. We were like baby birds - we had to be kicked out of the nest! 6 weeks. Six weeks and I am done, and the girls. Kim still has some responsibilities, but we can work around them. I know we made the right decision. It's still hard. But then things like today occur to prod and nudge me to move along because I am not brave enough to do it alone!

2 comments:

Christine said...

Hang in there~ things will get better, you know that. You're doing what you feel is right in God's eyes.

Kevin J. Bowman said...

Their loss is Via Christus' gain...

I see a lot of churches do this to our young people. It is a problem in every church O have ever been a part of.

We kick kids out the ministry structure they have been an intimate part of for 4-6 years and then wonder why they fall away during their college years.

Hmmmmmm?